Red Flag: Healthy Relations

Office of Equity & Inclusion


Healthy & Unhealthy Relations: How to Tell Them Apart

A Relationship is Healthy When

You trust your partner.

You treat each other the way you want to be treated, and accept each other’s opinions and interests.

You each feel physically safe in the relationship.

Your partner likes your friends and encourages you to spend time with them and wants to include them in his/her life as well as yours.

You make important decisions together.

Your partner understands when you spend time away from him or her.

You don’t feel responsible for protecting your partner’s reputation or for covering for his/her mistakes.

Your partner encourages you to enjoy different activities (like joining the volleyball team or football team, running for student government, or being in a play) and helps you reach your goals.

Your partner likes you for who you are - not just for what you look like.

You are not afraid to say what you think and why you think that way. You like to hear how your partner thinks, and don’t always have to agree.

You have both a friendship and a physical attraction.

You don’t have to be with your partner 24/7.

Your partner doesn’t force sexual activity or insist that you do something that makes you uncomfortable.

What are your rights in a relationship?

To express your opinions and have them be respected

To have your needs be as important as your partner’s needs

To grow as an individual in your own way

To change your mind

To not take responsibility for your partner’s behavior

To not be physically, emotionally, verbally or sexually abused

To break up with or fall out of love with someone and not be threatened

To be intimate in a way that makes you both comfortable and happy.