Are You In An Abusive Relationship?

Quiz:

·          Does he/she restrict  your communications with others; your use of
       phone, mail or e-mail.?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she forbids you from seeing friends or family or limits your
      contact with them?
                                           Yes     No
 

·          Is he/she intensely jealous of your interaction with other men/women?
                                           Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she has a Jeykll-and-Hyde personality, often showing a
       charming side to others?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she say they cannot live without you?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she put you down privately or publicly?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she insult your intelligence, your body or your looks?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she loses their temper easily over small things; their anger
      seems  frightening or out of proportion?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she throws things, kicks things, breaks things?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she blame you or someone else for his/her behavior?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Does he/she denigrate your friends?

Yes     No
 

  If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, chances are you are in a abusive relationship.

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Are You An Abuser?

If you are emotionally or verbally abusive, you may believe that you are also a victim. You may believe that others cause your problem, and cause your violence. The result is that you don’t recognize that you have a problem that only you can change.

Quiz:

·          Are you extremely jealous and possessive?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Do you have an explosive temper?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Do you constantly ridicule, critize or insult your girlfriend or boyfriend?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Do you become violent when you drink/or use drugs?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Have you broken their things or thrown things at them?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Have you hit, pushed,kicked or otherwise injured them when you were
      angry?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Have you threatened to hurt or kill them or someone close to them?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Have you forced them to have sex, or intimidated them so they are afraid
      to say no?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Have you threatened to kill yourself if they leave?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Do you make them account to you for every moment they ate away from
      you?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Do you spy on them or calll them constantly to check up on them?
 

Yes     No
 

·          Do you accuse them of seeing other guys or girls?
 

Yes     No

If you answered yes to two or more of these, then you are an abuser.  Help is available at the Counseling and Wellness Center 832-1945.

Excerpted from In Love and in Danger: A Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships ( c)  1998 by Barrie Levy.